One Year Later – A Few Things Discovered

reflective-thoughtWhen I started my blog one year ago, my original intent was to simply share my journey. After I completed that 7 post series, I continued to find compelling topics that I wanted to write about. Like other bloggers, the exercise of writing has been therapeutic and clarifying. I’ve also made many new friends among fellow-bloggers.

One year later, I can’t help but be reflective. And there are things I’ve learned by blogging and from becoming a more frequent blog reader.

  • I’m surprised by the number of fellow ex-Christians who have left the faith in recent years. Based on the sheer volume of personal blogs and stories shared on sites like and, it’s astounding to see how many have left the faith. Long ago, it would have saddened or horrified me. Now, I am truly happy that they too escaped the spell.
  • I knew there was great disdain and contempt for atheists and agnostics, but it’s been really heartbreaking to hear how often close family members cut all ties, or severely disconnect from family members who have left the Christian faith. They are treated like lepers and demons.
  • After having the opportunity to meet many fellow atheists/agnostics, I have found a majority to be kind, helpful, funny and intelligent. That shouldn’t be a surprise but to the average Christian, it would be. And I have to add that it’s wonderfully freeing to have conversations with people where you’re not constantly worried about being politically correct and/or overly sensitive about things.

My posts here are generally short which is my preference. But I’ll conclude that I’ve been warming to the idea of being openly secular to all. The recent CBS Sunday Morning video segment that featured Neil Carter was great to view, especially in seeing the tact and respectfulness of the piece. Most of my family knows of my deconversion but the majority of my workplace does not, and as a small tight-knit group, I’m concerned about the impact to those very important working relationships. I’m growing more hopeful about the future though.

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  1. Hi, first and foremost I wanted to lay all my cards out on the table: I am a Christian but I was interested in what you had to say. There’s not doubt in me about God BUT I don;t want to be a Christian that is stuck in their little bubble, so I’m trying to branch out and learn.
    If I’m understanding your journey so far, where you are not is not necessarily unique but those who were believers and are now not are kind of a ‘secret’ in that I’ve never met any believer who talk about that.
    One of the most influential people in my life was an atheist and I learned a lot about what I believe and why I believe it. So I just wanted to pick your brain.
    If you’re interested in talking (seriously and honestly) I’d love to just talk really. My blog has my contact info. If you’re not interest, totally cool.

    • I wanted to give a public shout-out to Simone. We’ve been communicating by email and she has such a beautiful soul. 🙂
      I wish all believers were like her. The world would truly be a better place if that were the case.

      • I’ve been staring at this for a few minutes now with tears in my eyes. I thank you for being so open and honest with me. Ready to share your experiences and willing to listen to mine as well. Saying Thank You doesn’t quite measure up to how grateful I am that you’ve taken time out to speak with me at length.

  2. Thank you for sharing your story, Logan. I hope you continue. It has been an amazing experience to connect with the insightful and wise ex-christians on the internet. I had no idea you all were out there. The support and encouragement, lack of cynicism and judgement is unreal. The vasectomy story is still my favorite:)

  3. Excellent entry as usual, Logan. Always love coming to your blog first thing as soon as I see you’ve added a new one!

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