Religion and Cognitive Dissonance

I remember restless nights and days filled with great anxiety. I was reading about a controversial topic within Christianity for weeks and weeks. All my heart wanted was the truth. It was 1989, and the protestant Christian churches in America had yet another controversy about theology on their hands. A prominent church pastor and prolific author,…

Cognitive Dissonance Revisited

In my last post, I wrote about the cognitive dissonance I experienced that involved a controversy in the Christian church regarding the gospel message (what does it mean to “be saved”?). The controversy tried to answer, “what is the nature of real faith?” I am grateful for that difficult experience with cognitive dissonance because I grew…

The beginning of my story…

My spiritual journey started in high school, and continued into Christian college and heavy involvement in church. Then one day, my oldest son declared he was an atheist, and my world was turned upside down.

My son told me he’s an atheist (part 1)

“Mom, I don’t believe in God anymore.” I don’t know for sure what my oldest son’s words were back in 2007. But I remember the feeling. As a Christian parent, it was a devastating thing to hear. My oldest son was 21 when I learned he was no longer a believer. He was so confident about his…

My son told me he’s an atheist (part 2)

After getting over the initial shock about my son’s lost faith, I began to research but I ran into two significant problems. The first problem was that I felt overwhelmed. The Internet — which I use regularly in my IT career — provided an abundance of information, and the resources available in 2007 were mature and…

My son told me he’s an atheist (part 3)

During the next several years (2009 – 2012), I explored a variety of scientific and philosophical arguments. Although my son was happy and healthy, the thought of him dying in apostasy would pop into my head often. Related to this, I would ponder the frequent debate within Christianity regarding the permanence of salvation. In summary, it’s once…

My son told me he’s an atheist (part 4)

Even though my son was a self-declared atheist, he attended Liberty University — the same Christian college I attended — with a scholarship. While there, his fellow students would often learn that he didn’t believe in God. The end result was NOT good as you might imagine. My son shared with me later that students…