When I started my blog one year ago, my original intent was to simply share my journey. After I completed that 7 post series, I continued to find compelling topics that I wanted to write about. Like other bloggers, the exercise of writing has been therapeutic and clarifying. I’ve also made many new friends among fellow-bloggers.
One year later, I can’t help but be reflective. And there are things I’ve learned by blogging and from becoming a more frequent blog reader.
- I’m surprised by the number of fellow ex-Christians who have left the faith in recent years. Based on the sheer volume of personal blogs and stories shared on sites like reddit.com and new.exchristian.net, it’s astounding to see how many have left the faith. Long ago, it would have saddened or horrified me. Now, I am truly happy that they too escaped the spell.
- I knew there was great disdain and contempt for atheists and agnostics, but it’s been really heartbreaking to hear how often close family members cut all ties, or severely disconnect from family members who have left the Christian faith. They are treated like lepers and demons.
- After having the opportunity to meet many fellow atheists/agnostics, I have found a majority to be kind, helpful, funny and intelligent. That shouldn’t be a surprise but to the average Christian, it would be. And I have to add that it’s wonderfully freeing to have conversations with people where you’re not constantly worried about being politically correct and/or overly sensitive about things.
My posts here are generally short which is my preference. But I’ll conclude that I’ve been warming to the idea of being openly secular to all. The recent CBS Sunday Morning video segment that featured Neil Carter was great to view, especially in seeing the tact and respectfulness of the piece. Most of my family knows of my deconversion but the majority of my workplace does not, and as a small tight-knit group, I’m concerned about the impact to those very important working relationships. I’m growing more hopeful about the future though.